Being a Christian gentleman is more than just social etiquette. Sure it’s cool to know which fork to use at the banquet table and what color suit to wear at different occasions. More than that, a Christian gentleman knows how to treat a lady, whether it be of romantic interest or not. A gentleman realizes the lady’s value and worth and regards it highly. When we were small boys we used to think girls were gross and nasty, and I hope as the years have progressed, your opinion has changed. A lady is someone to be treasured and honored by our actions.

Our world wants you to view women as primarily sexual objects. Why do you think women are on the covers of most magazines and advertisements? They want to keep your perception toward women sharply tuned to what you see on the outside of a woman because it means more money for their pockets. And the product of that is guys look at girls as just a piece of meat to lust after. As guys, our sexual impulses are hardwired directly to our eyesight. When you see a lady, your immediate reaction is to check her out, and see how good she looks. So, how do you treat a lady with Godly honor? It starts with your perception of women.

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Have you ever dreamed of being a knight in shining armor? I have. It’s a reputable fantasy for sure. Now, theres a slight possibility that either of us will ever really fulfill that dream in its classical sense. You probably won’t ever own a stallion, let alone ride it around town and use it to pick up your date. Knighthood was centered around chivalry. Though we can’t be a knight in function - killing your enemies on site and riding around on a cool horse - we can be a knight in principle. Chivalry defined is - “The qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women.”

Though we cannot time warp back to the medieval times, we can certainly be a modern day knight, a gentleman. It is not enough however, to be a gentleman, we must be Christian gentlemen. Being a Christian gentleman goes beyond simple manners and etiquette, it is lifestyle of courtesy and integrity toward others motivated by the Holy Spirit. The motivating factor of a Christian gentleman is to show the love of God to others.

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Today I was sitting in a restaurant with a friend when my attention was captured by a funny commercial being played on the TV in the corner. It was a group of business associates on a retreat somewhere in a remote part of a jungle. Suddenly, one of their friends were sucked into a sink hole. He was yelling for help and his arms were flailing all around, but the more he struggled the more he sunk. Yet, the team just stood there. The boss immediately began discussing how they should formulate a committee to discuss this problem and how they should deal with the situation. As the rest of the team stood around, some scratched their heads, some nodded approvingly at the boss, but one young man saw a rope on another’s backpack and decided to pull the man to safety. He threw it over a large branch and dropped it to the sinking friend. Whew…it was suspenseful let me tell you! Then this slogan appeared on the screen…Make It Count. Read the rest of this entry »

When a guy gets into a bad relationship we tend to have a soft heart to those who have participated in our bad choices. For instance, guys don’t want to break off a bad relationship because they feel like they will hurt someone’s feelings. I say WHO CARES about others feelings when you are about to RUIN YOUR LIFE. There are a few times in life where you have to be selfish about what happens to you. This is one of those times when it involves the most important decision of your life. You have to put you first and foremost when it comes to a bad relationship.

I call it a skydive situation. You know in your heart what is right but it’s hard to activate that truth because it will severe relationships and cause hurt to others. Imagine yourself going skydiving. I have many times, but since I’m getting married I’ve reconsidered due to the physical liabilities, and also, she hasn’t taken a life insurance policy out on me yet. Anyhow, you have made the decision to finally go through with it and you are sitting in the airplane. The bay door opens and you are standing there on the edge looking down at the ground with 12,000 feet of air in between. You know you want to jump, but you’re scared. You have a two ways to get back on the ground, you can be a man and jump, or go back to your seat and feel like a lilly-livered sissy all the way back to the runway. Here’s what it takes to make the first jump (from what I’ve heard from others Shanna dear). You can’t look down, you can’t think about dying, you just have to put it all out of your mind, and JUMP!!! They say it’s the biggest rush and the freest you will ever feel.

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