Being a Christian gentleman is more than just social etiquette. Sure it’s cool to know which fork to use at the banquet table and what color suit to wear at different occasions. More than that, a Christian gentleman knows how to treat a lady, whether it be of romantic interest or not. A gentleman realizes the lady’s value and worth and regards it highly. When we were small boys we used to think girls were gross and nasty, and I hope as the years have progressed, your opinion has changed. A lady is someone to be treasured and honored by our actions.

Our world wants you to view women as primarily sexual objects. Why do you think women are on the covers of most magazines and advertisements? They want to keep your perception toward women sharply tuned to what you see on the outside of a woman because it means more money for their pockets. And the product of that is guys look at girls as just a piece of meat to lust after. As guys, our sexual impulses are hardwired directly to our eyesight. When you see a lady, your immediate reaction is to check her out, and see how good she looks. So, how do you treat a lady with Godly honor? It starts with your perception of women.

You need to learn to view women as more than a sexual object. Women feel enough pressure from the media to be a sex object, they shouldn’t feel from the guys in the church as well. Here are some practical tips to let the ladies know you have a high moral regard for them.

• When speaking to a lady, keep your eyes where they need to be. Never look down or let your eyes wander. You may not think she notices, but she’s watching and others might be too.
• Never make sexual inuendos to a lady. This demeans and devalues them. This directly affects their self-esteem. They feel less of themselves.
• Don’t hang around girls that wear revealing clothing. First of all, this is no good for your hormones, and secondly, the girls who you should be hanging around take notice and they don’t like it.
• If you are sitting down and a lady is approaching to talk to you, stand up. This is important for two reasons. Firstly, it is polite and it shows respect to her. Secondly, when you are sitting, your eye level is at her waist. To get to her eyes, you have to cross some territory. It is better that you stand up and look her right in the face so that she knows you are not checking her out.
• Never treat a lady like she is the lesser gender.  Machoism is a thing of the past.  Don’t talk down to a lady.  If you are in a dating relationship, she is not your slave.  She is not a door mat.  Treat her how you would want to be treated.

The overriding principle here is if you always treat a lady first as a sister in Christ, you will always create an environment of value for her.  This is showing Godly respect and honor for all ladies you come in contact with, whether it be a romantic interest or not.  You’re on your way to becoming a Christian gentleman.