Being a Christian gentleman is more than just social etiquette. Sure it’s cool to know which fork to use at the banquet table and what color suit to wear at different occasions. More than that, a Christian gentleman knows how to treat a lady, whether it be of romantic interest or not. A gentleman realizes the lady’s value and worth and regards it highly. When we were small boys we used to think girls were gross and nasty, and I hope as the years have progressed, your opinion has changed. A lady is someone to be treasured and honored by our actions.

Our world wants you to view women as primarily sexual objects. Why do you think women are on the covers of most magazines and advertisements? They want to keep your perception toward women sharply tuned to what you see on the outside of a woman because it means more money for their pockets. And the product of that is guys look at girls as just a piece of meat to lust after. As guys, our sexual impulses are hardwired directly to our eyesight. When you see a lady, your immediate reaction is to check her out, and see how good she looks. So, how do you treat a lady with Godly honor? It starts with your perception of women.

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Excerpt from EveryStudent.com - On a cold, dark night, there’s nothing better than a blazing fire in the fireplace. You can pile on the wood and let it burn nice and warm. It’s safe, warm, relaxing and romantic. Now take that same fire out of the fireplace (which was built for it) and drop it in the middle of the living room. Suddenly it becomes destructive. It can burn down the whole house and kill everyone inside. Sex is like that fire. As long as it’s expressed in the protective commitment of a marriage relationship, it’s wonderful, warm and romantic. But porn takes sex outside that context.

Check out this great article from everystudent.com about the toxic effects of pornography. Toxic Pornography, Toxic Sex

Have you ever dreamed of being a knight in shining armor? I have. It’s a reputable fantasy for sure. Now, theres a slight possibility that either of us will ever really fulfill that dream in its classical sense. You probably won’t ever own a stallion, let alone ride it around town and use it to pick up your date. Knighthood was centered around chivalry. Though we can’t be a knight in function - killing your enemies on site and riding around on a cool horse - we can be a knight in principle. Chivalry defined is - “The qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women.”

Though we cannot time warp back to the medieval times, we can certainly be a modern day knight, a gentleman. It is not enough however, to be a gentleman, we must be Christian gentlemen. Being a Christian gentleman goes beyond simple manners and etiquette, it is lifestyle of courtesy and integrity toward others motivated by the Holy Spirit. The motivating factor of a Christian gentleman is to show the love of God to others.

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Today I was sitting in a restaurant with a friend when my attention was captured by a funny commercial being played on the TV in the corner. It was a group of business associates on a retreat somewhere in a remote part of a jungle. Suddenly, one of their friends were sucked into a sink hole. He was yelling for help and his arms were flailing all around, but the more he struggled the more he sunk. Yet, the team just stood there. The boss immediately began discussing how they should formulate a committee to discuss this problem and how they should deal with the situation. As the rest of the team stood around, some scratched their heads, some nodded approvingly at the boss, but one young man saw a rope on another’s backpack and decided to pull the man to safety. He threw it over a large branch and dropped it to the sinking friend. Whew…it was suspenseful let me tell you! Then this slogan appeared on the screen…Make It Count. Read the rest of this entry »