When a guy gets into a bad relationship we tend to have a soft heart to those who have participated in our bad choices. For instance, guys don’t want to break off a bad relationship because they feel like they will hurt someone’s feelings. I say WHO CARES about others feelings when you are about to RUIN YOUR LIFE. There are a few times in life where you have to be selfish about what happens to you. This is one of those times when it involves the most important decision of your life. You have to put you first and foremost when it comes to a bad relationship.

I call it a skydive situation. You know in your heart what is right but it’s hard to activate that truth because it will severe relationships and cause hurt to others. Imagine yourself going skydiving. I have many times, but since I’m getting married I’ve reconsidered due to the physical liabilities, and also, she hasn’t taken a life insurance policy out on me yet. Anyhow, you have made the decision to finally go through with it and you are sitting in the airplane. The bay door opens and you are standing there on the edge looking down at the ground with 12,000 feet of air in between. You know you want to jump, but you’re scared. You have a two ways to get back on the ground, you can be a man and jump, or go back to your seat and feel like a lilly-livered sissy all the way back to the runway. Here’s what it takes to make the first jump (from what I’ve heard from others Shanna dear). You can’t look down, you can’t think about dying, you just have to put it all out of your mind, and JUMP!!! They say it’s the biggest rush and the freest you will ever feel.

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Life is about decisions and choices. Some are easy some are hard, some are just second-nature. To be a real man you have be have the guts to make the right one. There is a difference between decisions and choices. Decisions ironically are what you decide about issues before the choice is presented to you. A choice is the real-life, rubber meets the road, moment-of-truth. A choice is simply the application of a decision. The most important thing in life is to make decisions about tough issues before the choices ever come.

Many guys wait until the choices about hard issues come to think things out. By then, it’s way too late to properly weight out the benefits and consequences of that choice. Take for instance, you are out with a girl, you are very attracted to her, and the physical progression is bound to start at any moment. She touches your hand and you feel like a million bucks. The atmosphere is right, she looks beautiful, she is willing to go beyond some boundaries because she’s crazy about you. BAM, here’s the choice we’re talking about. You haven’t thought about any of this before the date started. Your morals are telling you not to continue on, but your body is saying GREEN LIGHT!!!! The choice is, you can have some fun (well, what you think is fun, but you’re going to feel like a dirty rotten dog about thirty minutes later), or you can choose to not walk that road and either take the girl at home, or if she’s really someone you are interested in long-term, find a more accountable place to communicate. THE CHOICE IS YOURS. Chances are, if you didn’t make a decision before-hand, you’re not going to take her over to dairy queen and get a caramel sunday. No, you’re impulse choice will be to follow your strongest urge….and you’re going to feel like a dirty rotten dog later. Why? You didn’t think. You didn’t decide beforehand what your response would be. Guys who don’t decide before tough situations will be driven by hormonal urges and attractions to make bad choices. You have to make good decisions and think things out before the hard choice comes. You have to know what you’re going to do at that moment of truth.