Hollywood, television commercials, magazine’s, internet, and even billboards are littered with sex appeal. Through these outlets society has desensitized men to the consequences of pornography mentally, physically, and spiritually. As a result of this type of exposure adolescent boys are fully educated on sex by the age of 13, (in many cases even younger). One Youth Pastor reported to his youth group that by the age of 16 an alarming percentage of adolescent males had already been exposed to hardcore pornography. May I add that once a pornographic image is viewed, it is immediately registered into our long term memory. Pornography is a major problem for men these days. We would be amazed if we truly knew how many men are exposed to pornography on a daily basis.

Here are three ways to overcome pornography.

Read the rest of this entry »

Your life is changing drastically before your very eyes, especially if you’re a young guy. They say the world is spinning faster these days…figuratively that is. Chances are you are starting to think about the rest of your life. The carefree days of childhood are well in your rear-view and dude, you got a ton of responsibility coming your way. They might even start calling you the M-n word someday soon. Scary, very scary.

Put yourself in this scenario, or worse, maybe you are in this scenario: You’re in the middle of the forest…running full speed…in the dark. You’re running like crazy trying to find where you’re going, and you look like a mess. You have a big bruise on your forehead where you kissed that big oak a half mile back. You’ve got scratches and cuts from where you hit shrubs and branches. Look at your new Dungarees or whatever they call those fancy overpriced jeans at the mall…they have big holes in them, no wait, Abercrombe did that before you bought them, nevermind. Nonetheless, you’re absolutely muddy from falling over rocks into creeks and you might have sprained your pinky toe when you tripped over that sleeping elk. You look tired from running, and under that scent of macho-ism (the unique mixture of perspiration and that expensive cologne you bought to help you pick up the chicks), I can tell there is a little scaredy cat in there. You can’t see where you’re going, you don’t know where you’re going. You’ve just been running in circles.

Read the rest of this entry »

Anonymous wrote:
sex and lust are two differt things. most young people can not tell the difference between them. How can you differ between the two? Is it possible for a young man to love someone without even the thought of lust in their mind?

We live in a culture that bombards us daily with images designed to draw out lustful thoughts and desires. From Playboy and MTV to NBC and CBS, today’s mainstream media is trying to tell us that lust and love are the same. The trouble with separating the two comes directly out of a culture that makes no such distinction.

Read the rest of this entry »

Proverbs 18:24 - “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly, and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.”

The “real” world says relationships and friendships are give and take. You fulfill some sort of need in my life and in return I will do the same for you. The problem with this scenario is that when I am incapable of providing what you need, you are left with unfulfilled expectations. Unfulfilled expectations leave a person feeling disappointed or betrayed.

Read the rest of this entry »

Are you hiding something? Are you scared someone you love is going to find out your dark secret? You don’t know who to trust with your dirty laundry, but you can’t deal with it all alone. What Up Man? was created for guys like you, hundred and thousands of guys like you, who need help with life and don’t know where to go.

Our purpose is to give sound, Biblical advice for life’s dirty laundry. If you’ve wanted to talk to someone for a long time, the wait is over. Use the “Write To Us” at the top of the page and submit a question with your name or write anonymously. We will respond either by e-mail or post on the website. You will remain totally anonymous, and will ultimately help other guys break out of the hard ego shells and start talking about what they’ve been hiding as well.

Read the rest of this entry »